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no shame…me and my clumsy ways

Today, i will do two blog posts, since I had been working on one yesterday that I didn’t get finished. That one will go up later. For now, I would like to talk about myself a bit. It’s what I do around here.

This morning, as I was carrying my filled-to-the-brim coffee cup to my desk, I mentally congratulated myself for not spilling. That’s because, more often than not, I do spill. Or trip, fall, hit my shin, stub my toe, etc. And not just when carrying a hot, spill-able beverage. No, I do all the aforementioned at any given time, everywhere.

I am clumsy.

And that got me thinking: People who read my blog might not know this about me. And in the interest of keeping it real, being an open book, and generally having no shame whatsoever, I thought maybe I would do some random posts divulging facts about myself that you all are dying to know. {Sarcasm, folks. But that’s another post.}

Last Sunday afternoon, I had just finished up a photo shoot of a lovely girl named Lisa. We were doing headshots of her in the Paseo District. And as we walked back to our cars, I walked directly into a curb…and fell down. I didn’t just stumble, or almost fall. No, I sat on the curb. And not gracefully. It was a weird, slow motion fall, where I desperately grabbed at the bushes next to the curb and tried to prevent the fall. It didn’t work. But no worries, I was fine. Not a scrape or a bruise, and I didn’t even drop my camera.

A few days ago, I decided to wash the lid and reusable straw for my cool cup that I use at work every day to satiate my constant thirst for water. So, I had my cup of water sitting on my desk, minus the lid. I reached to do something, and knocked the cup over, right onto my printer tray, spilling most of the water directly into the innards of my poor printer. I reacted quickly and scooped the paper out of the tray, then stuffed paper towels into it to sop up the mess. I managed to avoid using the printer for a few days, and today when I finally had to print something on it, it worked like a charm…after spitting out page after page like a maniac.

I also remember, several years ago when I taught at a photography school, I had one of my classic moments. Pretty much every day, I would make a Sonic run to get Route44 drinks for myself and the other two instructors, Mike and Stephanie. One day, as I had walked back into the school {and onto the carpet}, I just dropped Mike’s Coke. Just dropped it. All 44oz of it. It oozed into the carpet while I rushed to get cleaning supplies. But I didn’t really like the owners of the school anyway, so I didn’t mind ruining the carpet there. ;)

I could go on, but for now those are enough random tales of my clumsiness. I would say that my inelegance has had at least a couple of beneficial results, though. For one thing, it has taught me to be a pretty fast reactor. And for another, I am not easily embarrassed these days. After years of humiliating myself with my gracelessness, it has really become not-so-humiliating.

So, there you have it. My first No Shame post. I mean, I’ve had other shameless posts, but this one gets a title and might even start a series. :) I don’t like to talk about myself, but… Wait, yes I do.


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Kathleen MillerMarch 4, 2011 - 3:31 pm

Abi!! I just love you! so so much. This Post made me CRACK UP because I do all these things too! We call them "Kathleenisms"…lets come up with a fun name for you! I love your blog so so much! Can't get enough of it! :)

Kelly BeaneMarch 4, 2011 - 6:01 pm

HAHAHA. I'm cracking up because I can just see these things happen. You know I'm so clumsy as well, and unfortunately have think I've passed it to Abi. Love this post, and yes, DO MORE! :)

dating talk

I have two fabulous friends named Brandie and Kristie. We do things like watch Thunder games together and wonder why boys don’t ask us out. Haha. Not really, on that last part. But we do occasionally discuss the fact that we know lots of lovely, single women who are not getting asked out on dates.

Today, Brandie sent me an email that contained the following tips for guys, regarding dating. I believe they came from this site, The Art of Manliness, which Kristie had shared with her.

Read. Enjoy. Learn.

Resurrect Dating

So, you’re ready to start dating and stop hanging out. It really is not that hard to get a date with a woman. Here are some guidelines to remember as you take hanging out up a level to dating.

1. She wants you to ask. Despite the rhetoric you hear about the liberated woman, women still appreciate it when a guy asks her out on a date. They like when men take the initiative. I’ve heard lots of successful young professional women lament the fact that men don’t ask them out. They’re beautiful, smart, and charming, but don’t have a man. Be a man and ask these women out.

2. Asking is easy. Asking a woman out on a date isn’t rocket science. When you ask, though, do it in person or over the phone. If you’re poking a woman you’re interested in on Facebook, you lose any credibility as a man.

3. Keep dates simple. Dates don’t have to be huge, expensive affairs. Keep it simple. If you want to keep things informal, ask her out for lunch or coffee. If you want a more romantic date, invite her over to your place and make dinner for her. She’ll be impressed that you know how to cook. The whole point of dating is to get some one on one interaction with a person to find out if she is someone you’d like to start a long term relationship with. Simple and frequent dates will assist you in this.

4. Prepare for rejection. Face it. Not every woman you ask out is going to say yes. Prepare for that. It’s no big deal if she says no. Think about it. You’re no worse off getting rejected than you were before you asked. You didn’t have a date with her before, you don’t have a date with her now. Your situation has not changed.

5. Just do it. So what are you waiting for? Quit reading this post right now and pick up your cell phone. Call a woman and ask her on a date. Stop hanging out and start dating. Stop being scared of commitment. Commitment is liberating, not confining.

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Brandi SueMarch 3, 2011 - 4:03 am

See, I know a lot of great guys (my husband's friends) who can't seem to find single women to ask out! The bar scene is iffy so it's hard sometimes. We should start a dating service :)

Kelly BeaneMarch 4, 2011 - 6:06 pm

Great tips! They really can be used for married men too (minus the rejection topic). To ask your wife on a date… It makes it more official and special, rather than just planning a dinner or activity together. Sometimes you get so busy with life you forget to do things like this. It's important to continue "dating" and sharing time together on an intimate level… alone with no kids, haha. :) Nice share!

distracted by changes around me

I don’t do very well with big changes. I mean, who does, really?

My friend and pastor Scott Williams has been such a huge supporter and encourager of me and my photography. He is leaving his position as pastor of the LifeChurch.tv campus that I attend. I am so excited for him and his family, but I am so sad for me.

Here is Scott’s post about the changes going on right now for him personally: The BIG Announcement #2

Sorry, I know this is a random post that most of you might not really care much about, but it is affecting me so much today. I tried to do another post, but just couldn’t get this off my mind. It’s where my heart and thoughts are this afternoon.


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slow down everyone, you’re moving too fast

Last night, a good guy friend of mine made an unsettling remark about my hectic schedule. His observation was this, “You don’t have time for a boyfriend.” Hmmm. Stop. Pause. Reflect.

Do I have time for a boyfriend? If there were an amazing guy interested in me right now, could it even happen? And aside from that, am I just too busy in general?

Let’s look back over my last week, starting with Sunday…

Sunday 02/20/11~ Church at 11:30am followed by lunch at my sister’s; decorated at the church for Big Switch; met up with my friend Kelly

Monday 02/21/11~ Work from 8-5; did a quick photo shoot during my 12-1 lunch break; picked up Kylie, the girl I mentor, and got a pedicure that evening

Tuesday 02/22/11~ Work from 8-5, minus a two hour break from 11-1 to volunteer up at the church like every Tuesday; went and got feathers put in my hair after work; straight from there to the Thunder game; from the Thunder game to drop my over-heating car off at my dad’s for him to fix {thanks, dad!}

Wednesday 02/23/11~ Work from 8-3:45, lunch with my friend Deidra from 12-1; went straight from work to the church for Big Switch {my church’s youth program} activities; got to ride in a limo with some cool kids, then was at the church for Big Switch from about 6:30 to 9, then took my Switch girls home

Thursday 02/24/11~ Work from 8-5; meeting at 5:30 for a cool new community thing called Merge; my LifeGroup {Bible study group} at 7:30

Friday 02/25/11~ Work from 8-5; taking a class at my church tonight that goes from 6:30-9:30

My weekend schedule is equally as full as this week has been. Honestly, I love my life and most of the time I love being this busy. I am not complaining. But the comment last night by my friend did stick in my head. I never want to be so busy that I don’t leave room for things that are important to me.

So, today, this Jack Johnson song is on my mind, especially these lines:
Slow down everyone
You’re moving too fast
Frames can’t catch you when
You’re moving like that

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Meg DFebruary 25, 2011 - 8:17 pm

I love your love for Jack, he is the absolute BEST!His lyrics are so right too :)

And KathleenFebruary 26, 2011 - 4:34 pm

Based on your schedule it looks like Jesus and James Harden will become extremely jealous of your future boyfriend. ;)

ashley o.February 27, 2011 - 2:20 pm

Jack knows how to say it best..